No, thank you

I was at a vendor festival in Inglewood and a woman handed me a postcard. I didn’t really look at it until I got home.

Something tells me that the “Pretty Sexy” Hair Company does not sell any hair that looks like mine. And something else tells me that they don’t buy hair from any Black Brazilians.

“Virgin” Indian hair just means that it hasn’t been dyed or gone through any other chemical processes but that doesn’t stop the image I have of a hymen inspector at the hair donation site.

In theory, I should be pro-human hair since it is a renewable resource and biodegradable but honestly, the idea of wearing someone else’s hair WEIRDS ME OUT.

Moving on.

What in the complete fuck? Why is this the face used on an ad that will go to someone who looks like this??

I can’t.

Honestly, I just cannot.

This entire culture–nay, this entire INDUSTRY–nay, this entire MULTI-BILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY–that indoctrinates Black women into thinking that “pretty sexy” hair is not the hair that grows out of their heads. And on Juneteenth no less! I can’t. I can’t and I won’t.

Side note: I was talking to my friend, who is a doctor, the other day and the subject of cancer came up.

Me: You know, if I ever did get cancer, I’m not doing chemo.
Her: I don’t blame you.
Me: Yeah, I’m way too narcissistic about how awesome my hair is to lose it.
Her: It is pretty awesome.

About J.

A former twentysomething with a head full of curls and heart full of questions wondering: when we get to nirvana, will there be food?
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5 Responses to No, thank you

  1. jamie says:

    Agreed! I am not a black woman, but I am a proud afro-growing Jew.
    I am tired of seeing all the Jews on the Westside with straight hair.
    The Brazillian blowout is a disgrace and makes us curly haired girls feel like we should be embarrassed of our funky locks of love!

  2. Val says:

    First of all…. My company does not say pretty sexy hair company for black women only .. I just sell Indian and Brazilian hair to whomever Is in need…. have been

  3. Val says:

    Also… Why you would chose to single my company out.. Without ever visiting or meeting me… One of the FEW Black human hair distributors .. Is beyond me… All I do do is say what my mom taught me a Long time ago… Crabs in a Barrel !

    • J. says:

      My apologies that it has taken me so long to respond to your comments. When I wrote the post, I was expressing my frustration, in the moment, at the cultural messaging around Black women’s hair. It unfortunately comes across framed as an attack on your company individually. On a micro level, I commend you for being an entrepreneur, particularly in an industry where Black people are sorely underrepresented. On a macro level, however, I still feel the way I feel that Black women are constantly being told that the way their hair naturally looks isn’t good enough. Regardless of who you may sell on to any given day, that doesn’t change that.
      Also, for this to be a “crabs in a barrel” scenario, I would have had to have known that you were Black to begin with. It was not, and is not, my intention to cause you or your company financial damage–and I hardly believe I could considering how small my corner of the internet is–it was just to vent.
      I wish you and your loved ones well during the upcoming holidays.

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