It bothers me to no end when people conflate being childless with being child-free. Wanting to have kids and not being able to is not at all the same as not wanting to be a parent at all.
I hate that.
This is my favorite comment from the article:
It’s easy to chuckle over silliness in Details magazine — and I encourage everyone to do so — but I actually would like to see someone explore the topic of intentional childfree-ness in these non-triumphalist ways:
1) “I spent my whole childhood wanting to be an adult, to have the types of responsibilities and freedoms that adults have (childfree adults, naturally). Now that I finally am an adult — I just can’t go back.”
2) “Childraising is one of the largest risks any of us can take. Some folks are naturally averse to taking giant risks of that type. It seems like this would constitute a solid, easily understood reason not to have children, no matter how much one enjoys being around other folks’ kids.”
OMG I AM SO #2!!!! (Intercontinental moves aside.)
Also, did you know that Black American women’s rates of stillbirth and mother dying in childbirth (how is there not a word for that? Defenestration exists but there’s not a word for death by delivery?) are on par with women in the developing world?
No, thank you.